Why Most of Us Fail in First Date – Things You Should Avoid – Dating is like a game where we want to win the ultimate prize. For ladies, its their Prince Charming and for the boys its their dream girl. If you want to win the game, the ‘opening’ has to be solid. ‘Opening’ means our first date. First date can be tough! You have absolutely no idea about what’s going to happen! While some of us are lucky enough to have a dream first date, for the rest it might not be as great. It gets even worse when you don’t know what went wrong! Why Most of Us Fail in First Date? We often end up doing certain things on our first date that damage every possibility of developing a relationship. Like every game, the dating game also has certain rules, some do’s and don’ts. So lets check out Why Most of Us Fail in First Date – Things You Should Avoid.
Why Most of Us Fail in First Date – Things You Should Avoid
Don’t Dress Like a Slob
First thing first. Take care of your appearance. We often hear ‘beauty is skin deep’ or ‘don’t judge a book by its cover’, but the truth is that everyone is judged by their appearance, it is what creates our first impression. So better take care of it. Dress appropriately, if unsure, go for a bit of formal rather than underdressed. Don’t put on too much makeup, you aren’t going to a party. Think comfortable, that’s what make you feel good. When you feel good, you look good too 🙂
Don’t Lie to Make An Impression
Many people have this habit to lie to make themselves appear ‘cool’ and ‘bindaas’. This is just wrong! The idea is to presenting the real you in an interesting way. Tell where you are now and where you want to go. But don’t lie.
Don’t Make It Sound Like an Interview
The main idea of first date is to get to know somebody and see if there is any connection. So naturally questions will be asked. But don’t make it like an interview. If someone is asking you a question, don’t give a one-word reply. Feel free to explain yourself. Don’t let anyone to ask all the questions. Because this will end up with one learning a lot about others while the other one will learn nothing. Don’t be shy to ask return question.
Don’t Act Like a Stalker
In this social media age, its quite obvious that you both have stalked each others’ twitter, instagram or facebook pages in order to get more information about them. But while out for a date, keep your act together and listen to what the other person is saying. Don’t be like ‘Yes I know it. I have seen your pictures’. Show your interest in listening to their stories.
Don’t Keep Checking on Your Phone
It is very important that you pay attention to the person sitting right across to you. Unless there is a genuine reason, please put your phone away. When you keep on checking your phone, it means you are actually avoiding the other person. Its pretty rude!
You are on a date and not a battle ground. When two people are meeting for the first time, its pretty common to have difference of opinion. But don’t let that lead to an argument. Simply stir the conversation and move to a lighter subject with a notion of ‘Let’s agree to disagree’.
Don’t Mention Your Ex
Unless you are asked about, don’t talk about your ex. It will make you look like that you haven’t really moved on and not ready for a new beginning. If asked, say the briefest and politely try to change the topic.
Don’t Friend-request Immediately
If you and your date is still not ‘friends’ on facebook, don’t just friend request them while you are still on a date or as soon as the date is over. It looks creepy. Okay, you have started to like him, but please wait until 2-3 more dates.
Don’t Spill All The Beans
Better left something unsaid rather spilling the beans. Don’t tell them all about your family, your medical history, your birth mark, what you did last summer etc. Make sure the conversation flows back and forth, otherwise it will be tough for the other person to get a word in. This is a huge turn off!
So these are few reasons Why Most of Us Fail in First Date! There are certain Things You Should Avoid and I am sure this will help you to enjoy a great first date 🙂
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